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How To Kiss A Girl

Most kissing tips mentioned in this site apply to both guys and girls but I am sure some guys would like some specific tips just on how to kiss a girl, right? Well, let’s look at some proven kissing tips for guys on how to kiss a girl.

But, before we get into that here are a couple of things all guys should keep in mind:

First of all, most girls enjoy romance and want to be treated like a lady by a gentleman. So what about all your friends that often behave like jerks and still manage to kiss girls all the time? Well, some girls will go out with a guy even though he is a jerk. However, most girls will not. If you are going behave like a jerk you may be able to get a girl to kiss you but chances are it will be the first and last time you kiss that girl.

Secondly, girls like guys that are confident. Sure, looks matter… But, most girls find confidence in a guy very sexy and often rate it above looks. In fact, on a scale of one to ten most girls will rate the importance of personality much higher than looks.

Thirdly, girls appreciate guys that are in touch with their emotions and that are able to express how they feel, not only about life in general but about her in particular. A girl wants to hear that she is beautiful, that she has nice hair, that she has soft skin, etc. She can’t read your mind! You have to tell her and tell her often!

Fourthly, girls want a guy to take care of his appearance and personal hygiene! You don’t need to dress like a male fashion model. You don’t need to have perfect skin. She won’t mind if you have a zit. But, make sure of the following:

a. Your breath smells fresh.

b. Your lips are not chapped or dry.

c. Your hands are clean.

d. Your fingernails are short.

e. You are clean shaven.

Always keep the above in mind when you want to kiss a girl, especially if she is someone special that you would like to have a relationship with.

Now let’s look at some specific kissing tips on how to kiss a girl.

How To Kiss A Girl – Tips and Advice

A close up image of a young couple kissing.

1. Show her that you are into her.

Touching is important! Touch her regularly in a casual sort of way such as briefly touching her hand, arm or shoulder while talking to her or her knee while sitting next to her. Don’t make it seem obvious. She will notice it but make her wonder whether you’re even consciously aware of what you’re doing. Girls like a bit of suspense!

2. Compliment her.

Girls love receiving compliments! Don’t overdo it though. For example, tell her that she looks beautiful in whatever she is wearing or that she has the most amazing eyes. Don’t tell her she has a sexy butt or that you love the fact she has big breasts!

3. Let her know you’re curious about her.

Don’t just talk about yourself. In fact, many girls like a guy who is a bit mysterious. Show her that you are interested in her as a person, and not only in her body, by asking her questions about herself. Get to know her as a person.

The first three steps above are a good way of letting her know that you are attracted to her or interested in her.

4. Take her somewhere private.

If you’re at a party ask her to join you outside for some fresh air or to accompany you somewhere where it’s quiet. It’s always advisable to kiss a girl in private. You will both be more at ease knowing that other people are not staring at you.

Take her by the hand, interlocking your fingers and lead her. Squeeze her hand gently and see if she squeezes back. If she does she is more than likely ready to kiss you.

5. Moving in for the kiss.

Stand or sit right next to her just before you want to kiss her and look into her eyes. Reach out and touch her hair while leaning forward to kiss her. Tilt your head to the left or the right to avoid bumping noses and close your eyes just before your lips touch her lips.

Here is a super ninja move! If she is standing next to you whisper something into her ear such as “I like you very much!” Your face will be right next to hers and if she turns her head to face you kiss her! If you’re standing in front of her you can whisper something into her left ear first and then something else into her right ear. If she doesn’t back away kiss her.

6. Start kissing her slowly and gently.

If you’re not sure what to do just take it easy. Start by kissing her lower or upper lip, as shown the kissing photo above. Remember to breath! See how she responds… If she is not kissing you back, gently pull away from her, look into her eyes and give her a warm smile. It does not mean she is not enjoying it. She may just be nervous, inexperienced and not sure how to respond.

7. Taking it up a notch.

If she is kissing you back and it’s going well start teasing her lips with the tip of your tongue by gently sliding it against her lips. Don’t lick her! Just tease her lips very playfully.

Wait for her to open her mouth a bit and slide the tip of your tongue slowly inside her mouth, caressing the tip of her tongue as you do so. Do not just stick your tongue into her mouth!

8. Take a break and catch your breath.

After kissing her you should be the one to gently pull away from her. You started the kiss and you should be the one to end it. This puts you in control and, as mentioned earlier, a girl likes a confident guy.

Re-establish eye contact with her. Depending on her reaction and body language you may feel it’s a good time for a second kiss or that for now it’s enough.

9. Finishing off the kiss.

When it’s over, don’t just leave her alone or go back to your friends. It will make her wonder if you’re just using her and she may doubt whether you really care for her. Hold her hands, look into her eyes and let her know that it was special and that you enjoyed it.

Girls are often more insecure than guys realise and need to be reassured. Don’t thank her for kissing you! She is not doing you a favour! But, you can let her know that she is special and that the kiss was meaningful for you.

10. Know when to stop.

Many guys would like to go further with a girl after kissing her and are reluctant to stop at just kissing. If you have known the girl for some time, have kissed her before and are under the impression that she wants you to go further than just kiss her on the mouth, use your judgement and go for it.

How To Kiss A Girl For The First Time

You can follow exactly the same steps and tips outlined above in learning how to kiss a girl for the first time, except for step 10…

If you’re kissing her for the first time it’s a good idea to stop after the kiss even if she is ready and willing to carry on making out. She will respect you for it! Don’t try to go all the way or too far the first time. Treat her like a lady and show her some respect.

Keep your hands off her butt and breasts. You don’t want her to think that you’re only interested in one thing and girls do not like to be groped.

Here is quite a funny video I found on YouTube.

It’s an ad for shampoo but quite applicable…

The guy is getting ready to kiss the girl and touches her hair. But, her hair is so smooth that his hands slip down onto her breasts and he gets a slap in the face.

Every time you are tempted to start groping a girl while kissing her for the first time just think back to this funny video and the consequences of groping a girl at the wrong moment.

For five quick step by step tips see how to kiss a girl for the first time.  

How To Get A Girl To Kiss You

Most girls expect the guy to make the first move. However if you have followed all the tips mentioned above chances are that by the time you get to the fourth step and show her that you would like a kiss that she won’t be able to keep back and will initiate the kiss.

As already mentioned, girls enjoy a bit of suspense and like to be teased, although most girls will probably deny this. Getting a girl to kiss you does not mean that you are not in control. In fact, you are in control of every step until she can’t help herself any longer but to kiss you.

Don’t give the game away by making it obvious that you are playing with her or teasing her. Girls don’t like to be played.

I trust you have enjoyed this article on how to kiss a girl. It’s really not that difficult and practise makes perfect. Good luck!

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