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How To Kiss A Girl For The First Time

First of all, learning how to kiss a girl for the first time is not difficult!

It’s normal that you may feel nervous about the prospect of having your first kiss if you are unsure of how to kiss a girl and don’t have any kissing experience…

However, as mentioned above, learning how to kiss is not difficult. In fact, it’s fun! And, you have nothing to worry about if you follow some easy kissing tips and advice.

Girls, they’re impossible. Always travelling in packs, getting one alone is no small feat and something even the most accomplished guy still catches himself being proud of. Yet now that you’ve done it, achieved the impossible, what next? Yes, getting closer to her and kissing her!

Most girls generally expect the guy to make the first move. This may not be fair but you can use it to your advantage. If you make the first move, you hold all the cards!

How To Kiss A Girl For The First Time Step By Step

Step 1. Make sure she is at ease with you.

The first thing you have to do is relax her. Give a shy girl a compliment above the neckline so that she feels flattered. You can give a bolder, flirty girl a compliment below the neckline if you really want to but I would not advise it. Although you may be sincere she may feel that you think she is easy and even if she is into you she most probably won’t appreciate you thinking that of her. Just tell her she is beautiful if you are not sure what to say. Flattery will get you everywhere.

Remember that kissing a guy is often a bigger deal for a girl that kissing a girl is to a guy.

Note: Most girls prefer being called beautiful or gorgeous instead of hot or sexy. The words hot and sexy often have a sexual connotation to them. If you are trying to get to kiss a girl for the first time you don’t want her to think you have ulterior motives and only want to get her into bed.

Step 2. Get close to her and touch her.

Before you kiss her, you need to close the space between the two of you. The traditional move of putting your arm around her is not advisable as it’s often clumsy or awkward. Instead, touch her face, either by brushing her hair out her eyes or just trailing your finger down her cheek.

Image of a young couple kissing for the first time.Step 3. Lean forward and kiss her.

If she is comfortable with you touching her lean forward and kiss her while keeping your hand on her face. Start by kissing her bottom lip by placing your lips over her lip. You can also kiss her upper lip, it does not really matter.

The trick with girls is to kiss them really, really gently so part your lips slightly and kiss her lips for a while before doing anything else. There is no rush.

Step 4. Kiss her more passionately.

Push the tip of your tongue gently against her lips so that she opens her mouth. Don’t stick your tongue down her throat! Just take it slow, first letting your tongue touch only the inside of her lips, then her tongue, and only then slowly letting your tongue go a little deeper as you deepen the kiss.

Stop for a moment, pull back a little and look into her eyes. If she is your girlfriend, tell her you love her, if not, tell her she really is beautiful, or if the moment seems complete enough, say nothing and kiss her again. This pause serves well to heighten the feeling. You could also put your arms around her and draw her closer before kissing her again, if she isn’t already in your arms.

You will find that once you start French kissing it comes almost naturally.

Step 5. Know when to stop.

Chances are if you’re kissing her and it’s going well that you won’t want to stop kissing. However, at some point you will have to stop and it’s better if you’re the one to put an end to it. You started it so you should end the kiss. This way you stay in control. Girls love a guy that is confident and if you are the one to end the kiss she will probably be more eager to kiss you the next time than if she has to stop it. You have to show her that you know when to stop. It will make her feel more comfortable in your presence.

Just gently pull away from her but don’t just leave her. Hold her hand or hold her in your arms for a while. Don’t thank her for kissing you! In fact, if you’re not sure what to say just keep quiet and enjoy your time with her while it lasts.

How To Kiss A Girl For The First Time Tips

Here are a couple of important tips to remember:

  1. Don’t wait too long before kissing her when you’re both in the mood as it becomes awkward for both of you the longer you wait.
  2. Make sure you kiss her in private. Kissing her for the first time should be special. You don’t want your friends or other people to stare at you as it will make you both uncomfortable.
  3. The trait girls find the most attractive in a guy is confidence, yet not being forceful.
  4. Make her feel beautiful. A girl needs always to feel completely at ease with you before she’ll kiss you.
  5. Don’t worry too much about your looks. Girls really don’t care if your hair is a little messy or if you have a zit on your face.
  6. Take it easy and take it slow. This is a guaranteed winner.
  7. Make sure your breath smells fresh, your hands and fingernails are clean, your lips are not dry or chapped and don’t drool!
  8. Don’t grope her, especially not the first time you’re kissing her or it will also be the last time you kiss her! Girls hate wandering hands!
  9. Respect her and treat her like a lady. Don’t try to seduce her the first time you kiss her.
  10. Your first kiss does not have to be perfect or passionate. Don’t try too hard!

Remember that everyone kisses differently. It may take you a while to find your ideal kissing style. And, if you kiss the same girl on a couple of different occasions you will find a way that works well for you both. Still, as with anything, the more you do it, the better you’ll get at kissing.

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    • Ya I’m in 6 grade and I don’t have a girlfriend, but a girl likes me and I like her too. I rally want to kiss her and she wants me to, but I didn’t know how and now I don’t know were.

      • It would be best if u dated her for awhile before u go for a kiss. It’s not something u should talk should just happen,I promise if u both feel very compassionate towards each other it will happen naturally. It will be ur first kiss don’t waste it on someone that u won’t last more then a week with.

  1. thanks i hope it works cause im going to middle school and i geuss ill start to kiss girls this year

  2. thankx i’ll try for it as i’ve a girlfriend from last 1 month but i never had a kiss from her so i’ll go for my next step i hope it will work

  3. kissed my girl friend for he first time today using these steps a lil awkward at fist then it just felt natural

  4. I’m only ten and its almost time for school im going to 5th grade 🙂 but the problem is that i’ve never kissed a girl before so i hope this works.

    • i dont no if junior is the one at my school but hes gooing in 5th grade hes not in my class but i thing hes cute but i dont no if i shude i caid of love him but i dont no what i shoud do i have had drems adout him kising me like i said i dont no if i should im not scard at all but im scard to ask him if you see this if your name is junior at hought elmture you no how and i never kisses a boy in my life!

  5. Thanx this is really good information I am 13 and my gilrfriend has been giving me signals to kiss her lately I just didn’t feel confident enough so wish me luck!

  6. Darn, most of you here are 13 and already have GF’s, but i’m 15 and Ive never even really hung out with a girl. Lucky for you guys. Hopefully these tips will be useful.

  7. going to middle school, so you need to know how to kiss? calm down, sport. i’m in high school and just my first girlfriend. now, where’s them mints?
    dionysus olympia

  8. Thanks, hope this will help me. I have a gf and we have been going out for 5 months I think I really don’t know but I think that we should take the next step thanks again

    • If you think she likes you, go for it. I just recently had my first kiss and before that the guy kept leaning in as if he would kiss me, but then would pull back. We had talked about it before though, because we were talking about mono. If you know for sure she hasn’t been kissed, teasing like that and then making comments about the first one being special is awesome for the girl

    • Say something like ‘I’ve liked you for a while now and I would love to go out sometime? :)’
      If you want it may be easier to ask over the phone or on facebook etc. Just make sure its not completely random and you’ve talked in person before (: xx

  9. Thank god i found this i’m 13 and i’ve never kissed anyone and my girl wants me to kiss her. i don’t know if i’m ready though. i feel like i should but i’m not sure. any tips for my situation?

  10. thnxx for d info dude…….m 14 years old nd i like a girl……..she also likes me……n i really want to kiss her…..i hope it works..!!

  11. Also im not her first im her fith but she only kissed once and i like to make it easy and smooth and i love her a lot ive loved her since forth and she liked me since september 2 so what should i do

    • Try to gently help her through it and be understanding if she isn’t perfect the first few times. My guy likes to show me what to do by taking my arm and putting it around him and things like that, and it is actually nice and an easy way to avoid awkward situations

  12. I hope this advice works, I’m 16 and haven’t kissed a girl yet (little embarrassing but what can ya do) now we sorta got a 2nd date planned out and well, any advice for like how to keep those awkward pauses from arising will be appreciated I know some will happen but the less the better. 🙂

    • I loved the kiss. it was so much better because of these tips. i tried to follow the tips as close as i could, and she DEFINITELY noticed 🙂

  13. Ummmm, really people? You all came onto this site and commented about how hard it is to kiss a girl. Or I’m not ready… wah wah wah. Get over it. I’m a girl and all of you are losers. I would never date any of you. If you want some advice then ask the girl you like out, take her somewhere nice or go to one of your houses, and just hang out. If you wanna kiss a girl ask her first. Act shy! Girls really like that. They’ll think your cute if you wear a tight shirt. If you have braces kiss softly like they said. Ummmm, and don’t have bad skin. The “experts” say thats okay, but it’s not. Sorry for being mean, but I hope this helps. Oh and also wear cologne and smell really good. Turns girls on.

  14. lol was thinking the sam thing Veronica well minus the dating thing lol but the shy thing in my experience this whole thing is stupid every girl is different some like shy some like the opposite but no girl likes aggressive honestly this whole thing is idiotic sorry for punctuation and grammar or lack there of but im in a rush so by 🙂

  15. I’m 14 and my first gf wants me to kiss her and I’ve gotten all the signs I just don’t wanna be bad at, it

  16. I’m 11 and she is 11. I like her and she likes me. I will try this tomorrow. I am hoping my dad doesn’t find out because it is 10:35 my time and I am doing this under my covers on my iPod. Wish me luck!

  17. I’ve met this girl about 3 or 4 weeks, I know it hasn’t been a long time but we’ve gotten to know each other a bit and she is so amazing, beautiful, funny, sweet and kind. Sadly just after I met her she moved, she’ll be stopping in my city before her next flight, so I’ll see her at the airport for an hr and a half. I would love to kiss her, but idk if there will be any privacy in an airport! My heart is beating so fast, just reading this tips, I feel like I’ll have a heart attack. Wow

  18. I am going to try some of this stuff on Valentine’s day… I hope it works because even though she is my first girlfriend we both like each other a lot and I hope it goes well… wish me luck!

  19. I am 14 and my girl is 13. We both have never kissed before. I think I’m going to make my move this Sunday on her bday. Wish me luck

  20. I know, ive never kisseda girl before but im waiting for the chance, people, do not french kiss on the first kiss because that will mess it up. Dont mean to be mean but i know, trust me even though yall do not know me. 😉

  21. But yeah, how do you hold hands because i do not know how and im 12 and my girls’ 12 and i need to know how to hold her hand 🙂

  22. Yeah I’m in 7th I’m a bodyboarder popular at my intermediate and every girl comes up to me and just ask me to Mac and be game don’t worry If u feel horny don’t worry if u don’t know how so just take it slow

  23. Ya so I’m fifteen and I have been goin out with my first gf for four days now and am thinking of planing a date doin something nice and I’m not quiet sure when i should do this whole first kiss thing.

  24. I’m 15 and have Been with one girl for a while now, I love her to death. All these 11 and 12 year olds saying they want to kiss there boy/girlfriend well unfortunatly that’s a little too young and should probably wait until your about 14 or 15 to make it a little more special and more memorable.

  25. This really helped I’ve know her my whole life but I thought I had it but I had to make sure because she asked me

  26. I am 14 and have a friend that I want to date and she likes me too and I already asked her out but she doesn’t want to date but we can still kiss its kind of weird but we’re going to kiss in about a week. Any tips?

  27. Well, let me just say that if she doesn’t want to go out with you and if you are SURE she likes u then wait for a moment when u two are alone and then say something like ‘you look really beautiful today’ if she blushes and looks pleased or maybe looks right in to your eyes then go forward and follow the steps. I wouldn’t go in for the making out just yet go for a light kiss, and if she seems pleased with it do it again. You kind of have to act natural and if you’re both enjoying yourselves it will come like that but don’t push her in to doing something she doesn’t want to. She may not want to go out with you because maybe she doesn’t want her parents to know she has a boyfriend, or no offence dude but she might not actually like you. If u rly do think she does follow my tips above. Good luck Ryan x

  28. Thanks, had my first kiss and it went great, I swear that people should do this for a living! And peoples, you 5th and 6th and 7th graders, for crying out loud, don’t rush it! you have plenty of time. (but make it a goal to kiss someone by the end of 8th grade, but if you are not comfortable with it WAIT!!! Waiting is the name of the game.)

    Good luck everybody!!!

    Keep it cool

  29. I had my first kiss tonight and we were alone in her yard and I told her she was beautiful and she ran into my arms, said she loved me and then we kissed. I’m only 13 an it felt so good. She s the most beautiful person in the world. We had to come up for air a couple times and it was great

  30. Hey guys, I’m 12 and really nervous bout kissing a girl. I don’t even have a GF, but have a major crush. Any tip on how to get this girl to kiss me?

  31. My girlfriend and I have been together for 4 weeks as of yesterday, and we have liked eacheck other for a few years now. We recently went on a trip and rode a ferris wheel. I am really regretting not kissing her on the wheel. We have both talked about this (we can talk about pretty much anything without it being awkward) and we both want this. But I’m still a little scared to kiss her. Maybe, hopefully I will tomorrow.
    I’m 15 and she is 13 btw

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